5 signs your dating the right guy
I've been married for 44 years, got married 4 weeks and 6 days after our first date, with invitations sent out about 2 weeks after the first date.I realized he was the first man I met who I was so in love with WHO he was that it didn't matter to me WHAT he was or would ever be. His essence, his core values, WHO he was and would always be, was off the charts.You get involved, you fall in love, you throw caution to the wind, you scream "YOLO" in the face of a potentially incongruous match, you wind up spending a few too many months (or years) with someone who is not ultimately the right match. Don't get me wrong: I don't regret any of my relationships, and I am so grateful for all of the things I've learned via people I've dated.When I was younger, it was easier for me to get involved with someone simply by virtue of his jawline or cultural cache or general bad-boy nature. These days, I'm healthier, which translates to valuing different things — namely, happiness and compatibility and mutual understanding and appreciation, aka a good relationship.Whether you're in the beginning of your relationship or have been together for few years, how do you know if you're dating the right person? conversation about just that with my best friend last night, who is going through a breakup after a five-year relationship.Sometimes it can be hard to tell: I definitely got involved with someone in my early 20s who turned out to be deeply wrong for me, but it took me six years to really figure that out.It's totally legit that sometimes you just fall in love with someone, and love them a lot and really want to make it work, but it doesn't ultimately gel because the two of you are vastly different people and want seriously different things out of life. You don't have to concretely know it's wrong — just feeling like you don't know is a pretty good sign it's not working.And if that is the case, some soul-seeking is in order, because I truly believe relationships should bring joy — not constant confusion and indecision and worry and dithering.
But even if you find some important aspects of the relationship are lacking satisfaction, don’t fret; there may be ways to address that... Ask yourself: Have you been more satisfied in more satisfaction in a previous relationship than you do in your current relationship—for example, you found it much easier to express yourself with an ex than you do with your current partner—it would certainly benefit the current relationship to tell your partner what could make you feel more satisfied. If you can more satisfaction in a particular area of your current relationship, it would very likely benefit the relationship to tell your partner what you wish for. If you can't easily imagine more satisfaction, but you have , this often indicates that you don’t yet know what you need from a relationship—and of course, it’s very hard to get your needs met if you don’t know what your needs are.Your girlfriend’s mother may turn to you at dinner party and ask, "I just have to know…what makes my daughter The One?" Or your bachelorette party may be coming to its sloppy conclusion when your maid-of-honor blurts, "Are you sure you wanna spend the rest of your life with him?They all have this one thing in common—a high level of satisfaction with the relationship.Satisfaction, in its simplest terms, means that both partners are getting what they need from a relationship. Assess how satisfied you feel in your relationship. To make the task more manageable, I recommend breaking down the relationship into separate aspects—sex, finances, emotional intimacy, communication, etc.—and then assessing how satisfied you feel in each one.