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Still, the experts say single moms would do well to look for prospects in places other than our glowing screens.
“We treat online dating like we do our social media streams and select only the images that stand out to us,” says Silva.
Of course, you can’t expect everyone you date to make a triple-digit income, or alleviate your own financial burdens.
“The key is to find someone who’s financially self sufficient, who can at the very least take care of him or herself without depending on you,” says Dr. If you had a child with someone you broke up with, learning how to co-parent will keep things positive and avoid any drama with new dating prospects who enter your life.
Stay focused on the kids.” And, as the saying goes, know how to pick and choose your battles.
“If that’s not there, there’s no need to introduce him or her to your family unit.” Money isn’t everything, but a potential date’s financial situation should matter to you when you’re a mother.
“Well-meaning friends and family often can’t help but offer cautionary tales and unsolicited advice, projecting their own fears onto your new relationship,” she continues.
“This can confuse you and add unnecessary tension with your mate.” Same goes for a spat with an ex (or your child’s father) on social media: “Don’t post anything negative on social media, since nothing good can come of it, especially now that you have a child to worry about.” says Dr. “Take the high road and let it go.” Knowing when to introduce a love interest to your child can be really tough, but when in doubt, wait it out.
“Financial stability in a prospective partner is a clear indicator that her or his life is in order,” explains Winter.
“You have enough going on by yourself—you don’t need the burden of falling for someone who can’t take care of him or herself.” Serious prospects should show a balance between earning and saving before you consider moving forward romantically.