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Depending on the degree or nature of the hurt, it may take your partner awhile to accept your attempt at repairing the relationship.
If things get serious I start checking up on my boyfriend and being jealous. Can you re-imagine your past relationships and how they might have turned out differently if you had acted in other ways?
I don’t have a problem with alcohol but I drink more when I’m with someone. If they liked me enough they’d reassure me but instead they always leave. Can you think back to past relationships and note down what might have triggered your negative actions and why you have allowed these issues to influence your life to such a distressing degree? If you were in a relationship with someone who acted as you have, what would you do?
Sometimes I give them the silent treatment for days at a time.
What does thinking about a relationship without anguish and drama feel like?